I haven’t told my husband we have a cleaner

Having a cleaner was once something reserved for the rich, with many people unable to justify the expense. But now, with long working hours and greater demands on their time, many people are outsourcing their domestic tasks to professionals, allowing them to focus on work, family, or hobbies and freeing up weekends from chores. As of 2024–25, approximately 17 per cent of UK households employ a cleaner. Despite the cost of living crisis, the use of domestic cleaners has grown significantly, rising by around 70 per cent between 2018 and 2023.

We spoke to five Britons about how much they pay their cleaners and how the arrangement benefits everything from their mental health to relationships.

‘I pay £480 a month, but would get someone cheaper if they raised their price’

James, 44, who lives in a four-bedroom house in south London with his partner, five-year-old twins and a cat, pays £480 a month for two cleaners to work for four hours each week to tidy the house and deal with everything from recycling to laundry. He sees no issue with how much he spends on the service. “If the cleaners took a week off, the house would be an absolute disgrace, between the cat hair, crumbs and kids’ fingerprints everywhere. I don’t cut my own hair or fix my own car, so why would I have an issue with paying for professionals to do a better job at cleaning than I ever could?”

One cleaner focuses on washing and ironing laundry, which James sees as vital. He admits that he doesn’t know how to operate his own washing machine or tumble dryer. The hourly rate comes to £15, which James admits is low for the area. “I know people who pay a lot more than me, and if my cleaners put their prices up, I would look for someone cheaper, because cleaners are really easy to come by in London.”

‘Clutter makes me anxious, having a cleaner helps with stress’

Sarah, 49, who lives in North Yorkshire, pays £40 for a 2.5-hour weekly clean, and considers it vital to her wellbeing. “I am a single mum, working full time, and I suffer from anxiety,” she says. ”I view having a clean house as essential for my mental health. I can relax and breathe when I’m not surrounded by clutter.”

Sarah’s cleaner blitzes the kitchen, bathroom and bedrooms, then mops hard floors, hoovers, empties bins and changes bedding. She cycled through more than 10 cleaners before she found her current one three years ago, sacking previous cleaners who didn’t turn up on time, or left jobs half done.

“My current cleaner is one of the most valued people in my life. Last Christmas I gave her a £100 cash bonus because I want her to know how much I appreciate her. She’s now in her late fifties and talking about cutting back on jobs because she finds the work physically exhausting but I hope that by treating her well, she’ll want to keep me on as a client, because I don’t know what I’d do without her.”

‘A cleaner saved our marriage’

Fiona, 38, lives in Worcestershire with her husband Shane and pays £18 an hour for a cleaner to come round to their two-bedroom house every Sunday, and credits the three hours of weekly housework for saving her marriage. “I have ADHD, and my husband is a neat freak, which was always going to cause issues when we moved in together. We fought constantly for the first year of our marriage because no matter how much I tried to tidy up after myself, the house was always a mess,” she says. “During one fight, my husband threatened to leave me if I didn’t unload the dishwasher at least once. We thought about going to marriage counselling, but a friend suggested we get a cleaner instead.”

Fiona credits the cleaner with not only helping her relationship – noting that the couple barely fight now – but also with alleviating the task overwhelm she often feels. “Before we hired the cleaner, I felt a lot of shame about the mess I lived in,” she says. “When I got back from holiday, my suitcase used to lie for weeks before I unpacked it, but now, the cleaner helps me sort it into piles and deals with the laundry right away rather than let it sit in a corner gathering dust.”

‘I have a secret cleaner’

Annie, 33, from Manchester, blames working-class guilt for lying to her husband about employing a cleaner two years ago. “When we got together, my husband talked about getting a cleaner because we both work out of the house five days a week, but I told him I could never employ one, because my mum was a cleaner and it would feel wrong. I insisted that I’d clean the flat myself, despite the fact I loathe cleaning.”

It took a year for Annie to crack and employ someone to come once a fortnight to help out, at £14 an hour. “I told my husband that the £56 that comes out of the bank account every month is for Pilates classes, and he’s never questioned it. I know it’s stupid, but I am too proud to admit I was in the wrong. Oddly, my husband has never picked up on the fact that the house is cleaned to a much higher standard than I could ever manage, or that our bed linen is now ironed. I caught the cleaner hoovering the top of our books once, which I thought was a bit much, but I’m so glad to have her.”

‘I gave up takeaways to keep my cleaner’

Rhiannon, 37, from Glasgow used to pay minimum wage for a cleaner and now pays £20 an hour and truly believes you get what you pay for. “When I paid £10 an hour, I had a series of unreliable cleaners. One lost the spare keys to my house, meaning I had to spend over £100 to change the locks. There was a lack of attention to detail, and the work always seemed to be rushed. I realised the low wage was attracting a poor quality of work, so I asked for recommendations from friends, and the best cleaner I’ve ever had turned out to be the most expensive.”

Rhiannon’s cleaner comes round for two hours a week, and she admits that she gave up other luxuries to be able to afford her. “I used to love eating out or getting a big takeaway at the weekend, but with the cost of living rising, I just can’t justify it anymore. But I won’t give up my cleaner. The service she provides isn’t just cleaning; she’s giving me back my time. I love that when I come home on a Friday night, I know the house will look and smell amazing, and my bedding will be fresh. It’s the best night’s sleep I get all week.”

‘I can’t afford my cleaner’

Sarah*, 46 and based in East Sussex, has had a cleaner for 10 years. “I can’t really afford a cleaner but I am so rubbish at doing it myself that I want to hang on for as long as I can. I know that it’s a luxury most people have given up, so I tend to keep quiet about it amongst my friends,” she says. “That said, I do work longer hours than most of the other mothers I know. Funnily enough, cleaners have never come up in conversation with any of the dads.”

A decade ago, Sarah was paying £8 an hour. “That rose quickly over the years, until I recently found myself paying £25. I have now found someone for £19.50, though I know she is charging my friend £17,” she says. “I am supposed to have her booked for four hours a fortnight, so it would be around £156 a month, but she is always rushing off somewhere else so I don’t get the full four hours, which means I’m happy to pay less.

“She will do different tasks if and when asked, such as changing the bedding or doing the skirting or windows. But of course I hate asking.”

*Name changed

I’m a GP but I wasn’t ready for the terror I felt waiting for my own scan results

Every time my phone rang last week, my stomach dropped. A ringtone, a withheld number, the buzz of a text message, and suddenly my heart was racing before I’d even looked at the screen. Rationally, I knew it could be anyone. Emotionally, I was bracing for bad news.

This is scanxiety: the very real distress before, during or after medical scans and tests. It is the knot in your stomach while waiting for an MRI. The dread that arrives with a CT appointment letter. The inability to concentrate when blood test results sit somewhere in an inbox. The way a normal Tuesday can feel impossible because you are waiting for someone, somewhere, to tell you whether life is about to change.

As a GP, I’ve heard patients describe this feeling for years. I knew people struggled to sleep, became tearful, snappy and distracted. But since my own cancer diagnosis last year, I have come to understand scanxiety in a far deeper way.

People often assume the hardest day is diagnosis day, and of course, that day can split your life into a before and after. But what nobody really prepares you for is how long fear can linger after treatment ends. There is an expectation that once the surgery is over, the radiotherapy finishes, the medication starts, you should feel grateful and move on.

Sometimes you do feel grateful. But you can also feel frightened, and that’s OK.

Follow-up scans, check-ups and surveillance appointments can re-open emotions you thought you had neatly packed away. You may be back at work, making packed lunches, replying to emails, remembering PE kits and pretending to listen when your child tells you a 15-minute story about Minecraft. But underneath it all, your mind is waiting for the phone to ring.

If you have previously received difficult news in a hospital room or over the phone, your body remembers that experience. Through trauma, the nervous system learns that certain places, sounds and situations are associated with danger. So you find yourself in a perfectly ordinary kitchen, reacting as if there is a threat in the room.

This is why telling anxious people to “just relax” is about as useful as telling someone with hayfever to “just stop sneezing”. Well-meaning loved ones often say: “Think positive” or “I’m sure it’ll be fine.” We hate seeing the people we love in pain and want to lift it somehow, but the truth is that often, the only reassurance you really want is the result itself.

Others may suggest speaking to people who have been through something similar. Sometimes that helps enormously because shared experience can be comforting and connective. But it can also backfire – when you are already frightened, hearing another horror story can send your mind into a tailspin.

In calmer moments, the internet can be useful. In anxious moments, it can feel like psychological warfare. Your nervous system is on high alert, scanning for danger, so suddenly every headline, every health story, every algorithmically served advert appears to be speaking directly to your fears. You begin to wonder if your phone is listening, when really it is anxiety making everything feel loaded.

So what helps? I wish I could offer a magic solution. However, there are some practical things that can help.

Ask your referring clinician for a plan: when will results likely be back? How will I hear? Who do I contact if I’ve heard nothing? Even a little certainty can soften the edges of worry.

Tell healthcare staff if you are struggling. You do not need to perform bravery. Radiographers, nurses, receptionists and doctors see this every day and can be gentler than you expect.

Write things down – questions, worries, dates, symptoms, practical tasks. Anxiety loves clutter. Putting thoughts on paper can stop them from endlessly circling.

Choose your distractions wisely. Doomscrolling is not rest. Fresh air, movement, a walk around the block, watching something comforting, sitting beside someone safe – these often help more than another hour online.

If it feels overwhelming, speak to your GP. Anxiety around health can be severe and deserves support just like any other health issue. Most of all, I think people need permission to stop minimising it. Scanxiety is a deeply human response to uncertainty, especially when you have known fear before.

As a GP, I still request scans for patients every week. But being on the other side has changed me. I am slower with my words now. Softer with reassurance. More mindful that the period between “we’ll send you for a scan” and “everything looks OK” can contain an enormous amount of suffering.

So if you are waiting right now for a letter, a call, a message, an appointment, I hope you know this: you are not overreacting. You are carrying something very heavy. And you are not alone.

Trump’s ballroom is turning into a toxic fortress

The cost of Donald Trump’s White House ballroom is set to rise significantly after Republicans inserted $1bn (£735m) for East Wing security enhancements into an immigration enforcement funding bill this week, despite the President’s repeated claims that the ballroom would be funded through private donations.

Trump has previously insisted that the main reason for his grandiose project, previously expected to cost around $400m (£294m), is to enhance White House security, saying that “the ballroom essentially becomes a shed for what’s being built under [it]”.

However, many see its construction as a further attempt by Trump to imprint his own vision onto the landscape of Washington DC. Trump is also pushing forward with plans to erect a 250ft triumphal arch that would stand out across the city’s skyline.

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While specific details on the new East Wing security measures are scant, the President has previously said that the compound beneath the ballroom would include bulletproof glass, drone-proof roofing, bomb shelters, hardened telecommunications, a secure HVAC (Heating, Ventilation and Air Conditioning) system and “very major medical facilities”.

However, the project is facing a series of challenges, including legal ones and widespread unpopularity. A recent report from the National Park Service also found that toxic debris from the demolition of the previous East Wing had been dumped at a nearby public golf course.

A new injection of funds for Trump’s ‘vanity project’

The requested funding for security enhancements came as part of a roughly $70bn (£51bn) package to bolster spending on immigration enforcement and border patrols.

While the bill did not explicitly mention the ballroom, it stated the money would be used for “security adjustments and upgrades, including within the perimeter fence of the White House compound to support enhancements by the Secret Service relating to the East Wing Modernization Project, including above-ground and below-ground security features”.

It barred any of the money being spent on “non-security elements”.

Even so, this seems to go against Trump’s previous claim that “not one penny is being used from the federal government” to build his ballroom.

A Washington Post-ABC News poll from last week showed that Americans opposed the East Wing demolition and new ballroom project by a margin of 56 per cent to 28 per cent.

A model of the White House with the planned ballroom extension during a meeting between US President Donald Trump and Mark Rutte, secretary general of the North Atlantic Treaty Organization (NATO), not pictured, in the Oval Office of the White House in Washington, DC, US, on Wednesday, Oct. 22, 2025. Trump said he planned to speak to Xi Jinping about China's purchases of Russian oil when the two leaders meet next week in South Korea, after the US president on Wednesday announced fresh sanctions on top energy companies with ties to the Kremlin. Photographer: Aaron Schwartz/CNP/Bloomberg via Getty Images
Donald Trump’s reimagining of the White House has become a divisive issue in the United States (Photo: Aaron Schwartz/CNP/Bloomberg/Getty Images)

“At a time when Americans are really feeling the pinch because of the events in the Middle East and the affordability crisis that already existed, I think a lot of people will be questioning whether this is a billion dollars well spent,” Andrew Moran, a professor of politics and international relations at the London Metropolitan University, told The i Paper.

Trump and Republicans have tried to use last month’s shooting at the White House press correspondents’ dinner, where the President and many of his cabinet were in attendance, to further justify the project. Trump posted on Truth Social after the shooting that it would “never have happened” had his new ballroom already been built. A White House spokesperson said the ballroom was “long overdue”.

But Moran said that the ballroom is “in the end a vanity project… Trump is somebody who is desperate to leave a legacy”.

What the ballroom bunker could defend against

Trump has detailed some of the defences that the ballroom bunker could offer, and Moran said that “the billion-dollar price tag would suggest that it’s quite a significant bunker and I would assume that this would be designed to withstand nuclear attacks. The fact that there are medical facilities would suggest it is something that you would be able to stay in for a while”.

Moran added that conflicts in the Middle East and Ukraine have highlighted the damage drones can cause and how they are able to evade traditional defences. “With drone technology advancing so quickly, I would think there would be concerns about a drone attack on facilities in the US such as the White House.”

He also pointed to the threat of cyber attacks. “If a massive cyber attack was launched on the infrastructure in Washington DC, you’d have to coordinate a response to that from a bunker because a massive cyberattack could bring all kinds of problems on the streets.”

WASHINGTON, DC - OCTOBER 28: An excavator sits on the rubble after the East Wing of the White House was demolished on October 28, 2025 in Washington, DC. The demolition is part of U.S. President Donald Trump's plan to build a ballroom on the eastern side of the White House. (Photo by Alex Wong/Getty Images)
Donald Trump tore down the previous East Wing last year to make way for his ballroom project (Photo: Alex Wong/Getty Images)

Delays in the building process

Despite the strong push from Trump, construction on the project has been halted multiple times. In April, a judge ruled that lawmakers must authorise the project before it could continue, after the President tried to circumvent a previous court order by redefining the ballroom as a critical national security upgrade.

By rolling the new funding into the wider immigration spending bill, Moran said that “it will possibly be a way of getting around the decision that was made by Judge [Richard] Leon”.

However, Democrats have responded to the development, signalling that they intend to make the ballroom the centre of their opposition to the funding bill. Chuck Schumer, the Senate minority leader, said on social media: “Republicans looked at families drowning in bills and decided what they really needed was more raids and a Trump ballroom.”

Senate Democrats previously blocked funding for the Immigration and Customs Enforcement agency over the conduct of federal immigration officers, after the deaths of two protestors – Renee Good and Alex Pretti – in Minnesota this year.

But Republicans seem unperturbed by the opposition, with Charles E. Grassley, the chairman of the Senate Judiciary Committee, saying: “We will work to ensure this critical funding gets signed into law without unnecessary delay.”

The Hull City cult hero with ‘unfinished business’ in the Premier League

If fortune really does favour the brave then Oli McBurnie should be on the brink of the most remarkable promotion to the Premier League with Hull City.

This most interesting footballer, a throwback centre-forward who admits he wears “toddler’s shinpads” due to superstition and has a passion for travel, is certainly not afraid to take a risk. When he was 19 he nearly left Bradford City to join Freiburg, a move he had his heart set on after Googling Baden-Württemberg and thinking it looked “pretty picturesque”.

Two years ago he turned down a contract offer from Sheffield United to uproot his young family and join Las Palmas, learning Spanish within a few weeks and embracing life in the sun-kissed Canary Islands, where he became something of a cult hero.

Last summer he was at it again, taking another huge leap of faith to join Hull. The Tigers were a club under a transfer embargo, who had just appointed a little-known manager and were among the favourites for relegation. The general consensus when he signed: what on earth is he thinking?

Hull City felt different

“There were a few raised eyebrows, for sure, but I don’t like taking the safe option,” McBurnie tells The i Paper of his decision to join the Tigers over former club Sheffield United and a clutch of rival Championship clubs who were vying for his signature.

“But Hull felt a bit different. I like to do my due diligence and I had a few conversations – with [sporting director] Jared Dublin and (manager) Sergej Jakirovic. Acun [Ilicali] is also such an enthusiastic owner and that really came across but he wanted me to make a football decision, not an emotional one.

“He was almost sitting in the background until I signed, then when I made the decision he couldn’t do enough for me. Maybe you didn’t see it from the outside but I thought all the ingredients were there to be a successful team and successful club.”

HULL, ENGLAND - MAY 2: Oli McBurnie of Hull City as fans invade the pitch during the Sky Bet Championship match between Hull City and Norwich City at MKM Stadium on May 2, 2026 in Hull, England. (Photo by Freddie Yeo/MB Media/Getty Images)
Hull left it to the last day to reach the play-offs (Photo: Getty)

Nine months on McBurnie feels his hunch has been “vindicated”. Having over performed all season Hull regained their momentum to sneak back into the play-offs on a dramatic final day of the season that saw them leapfrog Wrexham and tee up a two-legged semi-final with Millwall. The club are the underdogs in the play-offs but are embracing it.

“I’d never thought of it this way but someone said to me the other day we were the only club who wanted to be in the play-offs on that final day,” McBurnie says.

“Millwall and Middlesbrough were playing for an outside chance of second, maybe that will have an impact, who knows? We’re all buzzing, there’s no fear, we’re just looking forward to it and I just think it’s going to be a special night, an ‘old school’ sort of Friday night game under the lights. It feels like whole city is up for it.”

Jakirovic gets it

Ilicali, the larger-than-life Turkish media mogul who bought the club four years ago, has driven the project and was in tears at the final whistle on Saturday. He came into the dressing room after the game and gave the players a memorable speech.

“He has promised a few things, yeah. He said to us ‘You will see how crazy I really am if we get promoted’ so I like the sound of that. I’d like to see what he means.”

If they’re going to do that, you’d think McBurnie will have a big say in it. His 17 goals – already two more than he promised Jakirovic when they first met – have played a huge part in Hull’s success but so too has their unheralded manager.

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Jakirovic is one of the Championship’s most adaptable managers (Photo: PA)

In an era of bosses hung up on projects and philosophies, McBurnie believes he “gets” the Championship as well as any manager he has played under.

“One of the best things I can say about the manager is his adaptability. It’s not kind of his way or the highway, it’s not a dictatorship. He’s not stubborn like a lot of managers typically are and I think that’s been one of the reasons we’ve done so well this year,” he explains.

“It’s probably hard to game plan us against us because we play so many different ways against different teams.

“It’s been brilliant for me – the manager’s giving me the freedom to go out and play how I want to play and kind of making the game plan about getting balls in the box.”

World Cup hopes

Mystifyingly it has not been enough to turn the head of Steve Clarke which is why McBurnie’s second aim this season – to get into Scotland’s World Cup plans – is likely to evade him.

“I’m happy with my efforts. I have done all I can and ultimately it’s the manager’s decision. I have to respect whichever way he goes,” he says.

McBurnie’s other frustration is that he is regarded by some as belonging to the category of forwards who are too good for the Championship but not good enough for the Premier League. Nonsense, he insists.

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“I think I’ve got nearly 100 Premier League games now, probably nearly half of my footballing career has been in the Premier League,” he says.

“The last two out of the three seasons when I was top scorer for Sheffield United [that was] in the Premier League and the last year that I was there was really hampered by injuries.

“I think I had maybe six goals, four assists but I only started 14 games or something due to injuries and a couple of suspensions, which might be my own fault.

“From that I’ve always felt like I could compete at the top level. I do feel like I’ve got unfinished business in the Premier League.”

Reversing Brexit is the next big political fight

Britain’s politicians have long been scared of Brexit. At the last general election, Labour made it clear that it did not want to reopen the national debate on membership of the EU. The UK would stay out of the customs union and single market, Sir Keir Starmer vowed – a striking promise from a man who was a key mover in the push for a second referendum.

Not even the Liberal Democrats promised to take Britain back into the bloc, scarred by the “bollocks to Brexit” approach that had proven a disaster the 2019 the election.

The process of leaving the EU was a national nightmare. Whether you blame the short-sighted promises of the Leave campaign or the stubbornness of the Remainers, those years were so traumatic for the denizens of Westminster that most wanted Brexit swept under the carpet.

All this time, however, voters have been quite keen on reopening the question. Ask the public whether Britain should rejoin the EU and they have tended to say yes. A poll for The i Paper by BMG Research last week found that 48 per cent of people would like to reverse Brexit with only 35 per cent preferring to stay out.

Support for rejoining is highest, unsurprisingly, among backers of the left-of-centre parties: 65 per cent of Labour supporters and 79 per cent of Greens like the idea. But even 37 per cent of Conservatives and 22 per cent of those backing Reform UK would vote to re-enter the EU if they could.

The political discourse is starting to catch on. Labour MPs tend still to be more modest about their ambitions, often saying only that they would support a return to the customs union – though this would totally undermine Starmer’s strategy of striking trade deals with countries outside Europe.

But other senior figures are much bolder: Sadiq Khan, the Mayor of London, says Labour should put a Rejoin policy into its next election manifesto – suggesting that a second referendum would not be needed – and the party’s venerated former leader Neil Kinnock is adamant that Britain’s future is inside the EU, even if the 84-year-old admits he is unlikely to see this happen himself.

This is partly prompted by Starmer’s obvious struggle to secure the quick wins he once promised from the so-called “reset”, which was Labour’s solution to fixing some of the economic problems from Brexit, without breaching its manifesto red lines. Even the relatively modest objectives the Prime Minister is pushing, such as a deal to align food regulations – which in reality have never much diverted from the EU’s – are taking years to negotiate and implement.

The rise of the Greens, the only UK-wide party to be full-throatedly in support of rejoining, is also pushing Labour figures closer to that position – a trend set to continue after today’s local elections, where Zack Polanski’s party is expected to pick up votes in the big cities which were the heart of the Remain movement.

Nigel Farage’s rise to be the leader of Britain’s most popular party has come despite a growing swell of unhappiness with Brexit, the policy with which he is most associated. For Labour to go into the next election with a strident pro-EU position would neatly highlight the contrast.

But pro-Europeans should be careful what they wish for. The EU of 2016 is gone: negotiations to re-enter would be prolonged and potentially bitter, involving the UK paying in more than before to the Brussels budget and possibly signing up (at least in principle) to joining the eurozone and open-border Schengen area.

Public support for Rejoin could melt away once the practicalities become clear. And do not underestimate the anger that reversing the Brexit vote would evoke among those who still believe leaving was the right thing to do: they would doubtless feel that the democratic verdict of the people was being unfairly overridden.

The final danger is that for Starmer – or a new Labour leader – to embrace a full reversal of Brexit ends up looking dangerously retrograde. Is the only way to boost our economy and society to take a step backwards into the past? It would be a pity if relitigating the battles of a decade ago prevented us from having a serious conversation about Britain’s place in a world that is not standing still but changing at great speed.

I was the breadwinner, my husband looked after the kids

They say you have to work at something for 20 years to call yourself an expert. I’m nearly at 30 years experience in the beauty business, and I’m 40 years on the shop floor, so I’m very comfortable calling myself an expert. There are things I’m not great at, but that’s why you hire people better than you, and you delegate – and the ability to delegate comes with confidence. I genuinely do not think that someone younger than me could do what I do. And that’s not – as the youth would say – “shade”, that’s just fact.

With my experience, there are things I feel strongly about – and things the younger generation, entering the workplace, really need to hear.

One of them is working from home. Recently, on her book tour, Emma Grede, the multimillionaire entrepreneur who founded the underwear brand Skims and the denim brand Good American with the Kardashian family, said that working from home is “a career killer”. I think she was talking to a very specific group of people. There are two kinds of employee: someone who wants a job and someone who wants a career. Grede was very much talking to the second group. I do think however, that corporate USA has absolutely no place telling the rest of the world about best working practices. They are hardly world leaders in taking care of people.

Across my businesses we have working agreements with people that there are two days they can work from home, and there are certain days when we’re all in the office. We are flexible in general – and we have people who are disabled, or can’t do many days in the office, and we have a special arrangement with them – but we aren’t one of those companies who say, as long as you get the job done you can work from wherever you want.

We’re a creative team, and you cannot recreate on Zoom the spontaneity you get from working around a table together in person. I don’t care what people say, it’s impossible.

So if people want to work one day a week in the office, we’re not the right company for them, and that’s fine. But we’ll be very honest with them at the beginning and tell them that.

The pandemic certainly left its mark on the younger generation. There is definitely more of an expectation around flexible working and a hesitancy for in-office roles. As with any demographic, there are always exceptions to the rule, and your role as a leader is to find those people that want to work in your business, and nourish and support them.

Another thing that is non-negotiable for me is giving good, proper maternity leave – we do six months full pay. My mum was American, I grew up there, and I love the States, I really do, but they have no real maternity or paternity leave. Some mums have to go back after three or four weeks. The way the USA treats working mothers is barbaric. Their people are there to drive the cog and make billionaires money. There are developing countries where women have more rights. Does giving good maternity and paternity leave cost me money? Yes. But does it inspire loyalty? Yes.

Something else I know to be true after all these years is that women with children make great employees. If I have a job that needs doing, I’ll give it to a busy woman to do. A high percentage of our staff are women with children, and if they are home early to do bedtime, they’ll be back online. We don’t ask them to do that, but they’re committed. They feel there’s something to prove.

If a woman says their child is ill so they can’t work, we don’t need details or reasons beyond that, because it should be family first. Although, there is also part of me now, as I’m older and separated, that thinks… well, why isn’t the dad at home instead of you? When some of my team get calls from school about their kids being sick, I know that their husbands are in lesser paying jobs than them, with not as much responsibility, but yet they’re still the ones who leave the office to go and get the kids. If the mums choose to go home to their child, because they feel really unwell, that’s completely different. I’m just talking about the average temperature, or being under the weather. Let’s normalise dads doing their fair share of parental responsibilities, and it not just being “the norm” that you call mum.

That’s not my business, or a comment on my team, but about society in general. I have four children, and with the first two I did most of the childcare, and with the third and fourth, my ex-husband and I switched roles – he looked after them, and I was out working hard. For that whole period, we had chicken pox, flu, tonsillitis and the rest. I only got one phone call from my husband saying I needed to come home, and that was when our youngest went to A&E with pneumonia as a baby. He was right to ring me then. Otherwise, I was able to switch off from home, and focus on work. Men are more than capable of doing it, they just default to the built in weaponised incompetence and the mum thinks, “Oh, I’ll just do it myself”.

No. Let dad step up.

I’ve gotten older, and now in my position, as a business leader, as a single woman, as a mum, as a grandmother, my concern is when I see women stretching themselves to do too much. Whether it’s my team or my friends, when we’re out socialising and talking, I’m the first one to say, “Don’t give yourself a hard time. You’re feeding those kids.”

When it comes to equality in the workplace, and at home, you have to push back on your own every day, in small ways. For example, when we bought our house, all of the paperwork turned up addressed to “Mr and Mrs”.

I made them change it to “Mrs and Mr”, because I was the main breadwinner, but putting him first showed me they assume he’s the head of the household, earning the money. It may be old school and the way that things have always been done, but to me, it’s disrespectful. Those assumptions need to be challenged and changed. Women are not the second thought. So when it comes to being a boss at work, and running businesses, I have no mum guilt. I’m not saying it wasn’t exhausting sometimes, but I was giving them a home, and food, and I also made a point to never miss a school play. Did my kids see my face in the crowd at their school events? Yes. Did I then head back to work afterwards? Yes. I just knew my kids would see the benefit when they were older. They’re now fully-grown adults, and I probably shouldn’t speak for them, but I don’t feel like they’ve missed out on me being a mum.

When I look at younger women in the workplace, I want to encourage them to not feel guilty, and to push for fairness. Companies, too, need to treat them well. After all, when you do that, you get your pick of the crop. Sometimes, you only realise something like that when you’ve been around as long as I have.

What Rayner as PM could mean for your taxes, welfare and immigration

Labour is poised for a possible leadership contest as soon as this summer ahead of a set of local elections which are expected to be a bruising experience for the party.

If Sir Keir Starmer is forced to stand down – either in the coming weeks, or at another point before the next general election – Angela Rayner is seen as a frontrunner to succeed him.

The former Deputy Prime Minister has made it clear that she is backing Starmer. But she has also worked to bolster her own position within Labour, making high-profile policy interventions where she has generally called for a shift to the left.

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Rayner’s speeches, and her track record in government before she quit the Cabinet last year after a row over her taxes, lay out the broad direction in which she would take the country if she got to No 10.

Taxes

Although she served in Jeremy Corbyn’s shadow Cabinet, Rayner has usually been associated with the “soft left” rather than Corbyn’s hard-left wing which backs sharply higher taxes across the board.

In a speech last month to the Good Growth Foundation, she talked about “stopping the extraction and hoarding of wealth and power” in a suggestion she may be open to targeted tax increases on the richest individuals and big businesses.

And in a memo to the Chancellor last year, she proposed a number of specific measures including higher taxes on banks, a limit on the amount that savers can put into their tax-free pension, and taxing dividends more highly.

While her allies have emphasised that these ideas were tied to the fiscal situation at the time, it is a further sign that Rayner would seek to extract more revenue from wealthier groups.

Welfare and public spending

Rayner has let it be known that she opposed the failed attempt to cut spending on disability benefits last year.

She used a speech to Mainstream, a Labour faction closely associated with Andy Burnham, in March to call for “a renewed, relentless focus on tackling the cost of living crisis” – adding that the Government should be “bringing down the price of your food, your energy, your water, not being ripped off”.

That may be seen as a hint than Rayner would be more open than Rachel Reeves to the idea of directly intervening to control prices, particularly for as long as the effects of the Iran war continue to push up the cost of living.

More broadly, she has talked about the importance of “investment in public services and infrastructure”, including green energy, suggesting she would continue and extend the current Government’s policy of borrowing money for long-term projects.

Employment rights

The policy of which Rayner is proudest is her Employment Rights Act. She told Mainstream: “For millions of workers after decades of low pay and insecurity, we chose stronger rights and security.”

At key moments, Starmer has agreed to compromise on the act, including by removing the protection against unfair dismissal for new employees.

As Prime Minister, Rayner could push to go further and fulfil all the manifesto promises Labour made at the last election – as well as continuing to raise the minimum wage, which she has said is essential to provide an income which it is possible to live on.

Housing and local government

In her 14 months as Housing Secretary, Rayner passed the Renters’ Rights Act which has now come into force and makes it much harder for landlords to evict tenants.

She boasted to the Good Growth Foundation that her plans to build more homes would help to boost the economy, and added: “I was proud of our record investment in social and affordable housebuilding, which will create good quality jobs right across the country, provide secure homes and lower housing costs.”

Her comments imply that in the event of a shortfall in Labour’s ambitious targets for new housing, she would look to make up the gap by building more social homes – using a £39bn pot promised by the Treasury – rather than leaving it to the market.

Rayner has also made it clear she is passionate about giving more power to local councils. She told Mainstream: “Devolving power brings it closer to local people and business, and gives us joined-up solutions to complicated problems.”

Immigration

While she has never dissented from the Government’s overall aim of reducing net migration, Rayner has called for a less tough system for those already living in the UK.

She publicly denounced Shabana Mahmood’s plan to make it harder for immigrants who arrived here in the past few years to get the permanent right to remain.

Her position suggests that she would make cutting numbers less of a priority if she were running No 10.

Foreign affairs and defence

Rayner has never had a political job with directly responsibility for foreign policy or defence, although she did make some overseas trips when she was Starmer’s deputy.

She has not joined the calls for the UK Government to take a more assertive stance towards Donald Trump; it is unknown how she would seek to build a rapport with the unpredictable US President.

While most of the soft left is keen for closer ties to the EU, Rayner’s track record is one of scepticism towards the anti-Brexit movement so she may resist calls to go much further on the so-called “reset”.

Unintended consequences

Opponents of Rayner say the greatest danger she poses is not through any one of her policies, but the risk of a markets meltdown prompted by traders who do not believe she can control the public finances.

She has held meetings this year with City figures to discuss UK economic policy and subtly reassure them she has a grasp of the importance of a balanced budget.

But if her enemies were right, the biggest effect of a Rayner premiership on the general public would be to push up inflation and the cost of borrowing in Liz Truss-style crisis.

I tried 13 feta cheeses

Feta is undoubtedly the best known and most widely eaten Greek cheese in the UK, if not internationally. It’s a salty, crumbly cheese made with sheep’s and goat’s milk and bears the EU’s protected denomination of origin – PDO – status, which means authentic feta can only come from Greece itself. As well as tasting delicious with its unmistakable tang, feta is an incredibly useful cheese to have in the fridge as it keeps for a long time, often over six months from purchase.

The food writer Georgina Hayden grew up in north London with her Greek Cypriot family and shares this heritage in her recipes and writing, from Taverna, Nistisima and Greekish to the brand new MEDesque: Everyday recipes with Mediterranean Roots (Bloomsbury, £26).

Can we buy good feta in British supermarkets? “You really can now,” she says. “In terms of brands, I highly rate everything Odysea makes and imports. The producers they work with are incredible and their feta is top notch. Also, look for feta that comes in a tub and is stored in brine for some of the best quality. Epiros is another I really like.”

Some cheaper blocks that aren’t feta are now labelled “Greek cheese” – should we bother with these? “That’s a tough one,” Hayden says. “It’s a bit like asking would you buy cheddar if it wasn’t from the UK? While I am sure you can still get a decent feta-style cheese outside of Greece, my honest opinion is we should protect these labels and buy from the source.”

Most of us probably first met feta in a Greek salad, typically made with peppers, tomatoes, olives, red onion and oregano. I regularly eat it as an “instant” dinner, covering a block in a tin of tomatoes, maybe with chickpeas and oregano or some fresh tomatoes and chilli, and bake for half an hour or so at 180°C then eat with good bread. It’s also becoming more popular as a picnic or BBQ dip, with Waitrose reporting that searches for whipped feta are up 45 per cent week-on-week as our sunny summer dining season kicks off.

Hayden recommends a dish called from her new book MEDesque that she calls seadas saganaki. “Feta is mixed with mozzarella and pecorino, stuffed into filo parcels and pan fried with honey, chilli and thyme,” she explains. “From Greekish, I love it in the baklava cheesecake – the salty creamy sweet filling is heaven.”

I’ve made the baklava cheesecake several times. It’s a genius fusion dessert that transforms the cheesecake base by fashioning it out of sheets of filo pastry layered with toasted nuts and syrup and mixing feta with cream cheese, double cream and white chocolate for the filling. Another that I love from Greekish is the roasted lemon, oregano and feta potatoes. In other words, feta can take you much further than a salad! Here’s my review of 13 high-street feta cheeses.

Tesco Finest Barrel Aged Feta

£4.40/250g (£17.60/kg)

The flavour of this one grows on me, starting off with the rounded notes of a good sheep’s cheese and developing into the recognisable tang of feta. It is a strength three but milder than some of the others I try, with a creamy mouthfeel and a rounded, fruity finish. It’s made with both sheep and goat’s milk and packed in a plastic tub in brine, which keeps it moist and salty.

4/5

M&S Greek Feta

£3.25/200g (£16/kg)

A smooth and rich feta with a dense texture, a decent crumble and wonderful flavour development of ripened orchard fruits. This one reminds me how good so many summer fruits are with feta, from watermelon and peach to pear and fig. Made by the Roussas family, who seem to make a few of my supermarket favourites. The label says it is made with “100 per cent ewe’s milk” which makes it sound fancier than sheep’s milk but is exactly the same product.

4/5

Sainsbury’s Taste the Difference barrel-aged Greek feta

£3.50/200g/£2.60 with Nectar (£17.50/kg)

This feta shows that strength isn’t everything when it comes to flavour. It’s a sheep and goat feta with a strength of two, while most are three, and the taste is mild and smooth but instantly fruity and herbaceous with a zip of citrus, too. Texture-wise it is soft, almost spreadable. I’ll definitely buy this in the future.

4/5

Duchy Organic Greek Feta Cheese Strength Three

£3.15/200g (£15.75/kg)

This is very smooth and creamy, and blooms in the mouth with the fullness of great quality dairy and maintains its tasty, salty edge throughout. Made with organic goat’s and sheep’s milk and a touch of sea salt.

4/5

Odysea 100 Per cent Sheep’s Feta

£3.20/200g from Ocado (£16.00/kg)

This cheese is hugely creamy and tangy from the get-go, without being offputtingly strong. Made with sheep’s milk alone, it swerves some of the funkiness of goaty fetas and ends with a lovely bright lemony note. It crumbles really nicely, too. Made by third generation feta makers, the Roussas family, at their Thessaly dairy for Odysea.

4/5

M&S Simply Greek Feta

£2.35/200g (£11.75/kg)

I don’t love this at a first taste as it’s somewhat dry but it does settle into a decent option with a sharp and salty tang. Plus it has an impressive crumble to it when I sprinkle it over salad.

3/5

Ocado Greek Feta

£2.15/200g (£10.75/ kg)

A little slimy on opening but it crumbles beautifully and the mild flavour fluffs up in the mouth before quickly giving in to a fierce and salty tang. Great if you want a stronger cheese – this is strength three and made from goat’s and sheep’s milk.

3/5

Lidl Milbona Greek Feta

£1.69/200g (£6.76/kg)

This one tastes slightly powdery at first then rushes straight into a strong and salty tang. It doesn’t crumble too well, I expect because it’s a little too smooth and dense. Not awful, but I’d be more inclined to cook with this one.

2/5

Aldi Greek Feta

£1.69/200G (£8.45/kg)

Made with sheep’s and goat’s milk and no added salt, like the Lidl feta, this is incredible value. The flavour is mild to start off with then a good hit of tang kicks in, before a gentle finish. It is somewhat slimy when I open the packet, however, so might be nicer baked, certainly presentation-wise.

2/5

Waitrose No. 1 Barrel Aged Greek Feta Cheese PDO Strength Four

£3.90/200g (£19.50/kg)

If your feta comes in a plastic tub rather than plastic wrapping, this is your first sign it’s a superior product. This is marked as “strength four” yet initially tastes quite mild. But the flavour soon develops into something more interesting than the classic salty tang, with more of a ripe orchard fruits taste. Well worth the money.

4/5

Epiros Greek Feta

£5.25/200g from Ocado (£26.25/ kg)

Creamy, crumbly, sharp and tangy with real depth of flavour, I can see from a first taste why this Epiros feta is a prize-winning cheese and often named by experts. Georgina Hayden names it as one of her favourites and though it’s significantly more expensive than other fetas, it’s cheaper than high quality cheeses from the UK, France and Italy.

4.5/5

Tesco Greek Feta Cheese

£2.15/200g (£10.75/kg)

A good price for a feta that crumbles nicely and hits the palate with a velvety texture and significant salty tang. This is made from both sheep’s and goat’s milk and has a strength of three. It’s definitely one of the saltiest so a good choice if that’s your preferred kind of feta.

3/5

Lidl Simply Greek Style Salad Cheese

85p/200g (£4.25/kg)

This is the only feta pretender that I try, though they’re available in most supermarkets. It is made in the same way as feta but not in Greece nor necessarily with sheep or goat’s milk. In this case, it’s made in Romania. While the kind of milk isn’t specified, I suspect it is sheep. It tastes dry and then a bit sheepy, but with none of the character or tang I expect from genuine feta. I wouldn’t recommend this as a salad cheese but it’s a good source of protein (15g/100g) if you’re vegetarian, and would be fine if lacking in flavour when baked.

1/5

What Epstein’s newly released ‘suicide note’ tells us about his death

A federal judge on Wednesday released a document described as a suicide note ​purportedly written by the late child sex offender Jeffrey Epstein.

Epstein was found dead in his Manhattan jail cell in August 2019 in what was ruled ⁠a suicide. The handwritten note was said to have been found by his former jail cellmate, convicted murderer and ex-police officer, Nicholas Tartaglione.

US District Judge Kenneth Karas, who oversaw the Tartaglione case, released the note after a request by The New York Times, which reported its existence last week.

The judge found no legal reason to keep it under seal but nor did he vouch for the note’s authenticity, nor assess its chain of custody. Instead he ​treated those ⁠issues as irrelevant to the unsealing decision.

“No ‌party has identified any competing consideration that would justify sealing the note,” the judge ruled.

Epstein claimed no charges had been found

The note, scrawled on a yellow legal pad, was submitted by lawyers for Tartaglione, who was Epstein’s cellmate for ‌roughly two weeks in July 2019 while both were held at ‌a jail in New York.

“They investigated me for month – Found NOTHING!!! So 15-year-old charges resulted,” the note says, according to an image of it released in the court file.

At the time of Epstein’s death, he was accused of running a network to traffic young women and girls. A series of documents and emails have since been released as part of over three million pages of documents within the so-called Epstein files.

His death came more than a decade after his conviction for soliciting prostitution from a minor.

Repeated reference from a previous email

Epstein also included a reference he had used in an email to his brother, Mark, in September 2016 where he wrote, “whtchoo want me todo — bust out cryin”, as reported by The Times.

In another message to his childhood friend, Terry Kafka, Epstein wrote again: ““Whatcha want me todo/ bust out cryin”.

In the suicide note, Epstein again wrote: “It is a treat to be able to choose ones time to say goodbye. ⁠Watcha want me to do – Burst out cryin!! NO FUN – NOT WORTH IT!!”

FILE - This March 28, 2017, file photo, provided by the New York State Sex Offender Registry shows Jeffrey Epstein. Brown University placed a fundraising director on administrative leave in September 2019 following a report that accused him of participating in covering up disgraced financier Epstein's connections to the Massachusetts Institute of Technology Media Lab. (New York State Sex Offender Registry via AP, File)
Jeffrey Epstein’s mug shot, taken in 2017. (New York State Sex Offender Registry via AP)

Epstein had been moved to his own cell

Epstein pleaded guilty in 2008 in Florida to soliciting prostitution from a minor, a conviction that led to a controversial plea deal and a short jail sentence.

He was arrested again in July 2019 and charged with sex trafficking of minors, and accused of recruiting and abusing underage girls in New York and Florida.

The note surfaced that same month, after Epstein was found alive in his cell with marks on his neck in what authorities ‌later described as an apparent suicide attempt. Epstein said he did not try and kill himself, but that Tartaglione tried to strangle him.

Epstein was then transferred to his own cell. According to Tartaglione, the ​note was tucked inside a book in their shared cell.

Tartaglione mentioned the note in a podcast interview last year but the issue gained ⁠widespread attention after The Times reported on its existence last Thursday.

The Times reported that the note was never seen by federal ‌investigators and was absent from millions ​of Epstein-related documents released by the US Justice Department in ‌recent years.

In ordering the unsealing, the judge ​rejected privacy concerns, noting Epstein’s death and the widespread public discussion of the purported note.

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I’m a landlord making £35,000 a year

Tighter regulation on landlords will force more out of the market, as they fear fines and rent controls further down the line, a 69-year-old landlord from Chelmsford said.

Neil France, who has a training business, has a portfolio of seven rental properties.

He has four properties in the north, which are rented out to families and three nearby in Essex, which are mixed home occupancies and aimed at young workers.

Despite steady demand and profits of around £35,000 a year, Neil says the regulatory environment is making being a landlord more stressful and with rising costs it’s harder to maintain returns.

New regulations include the Renters’ Rights Act that came into force for most private rented tenancies in England on 1 May.

It bans Section 21 “no-fault” evictions, ends most fixed-term assured shorthold tenancies by moving renters on to periodic tenancies, limits rent increases to once a year, restricts rent in advance, and gives tenants stronger rights to challenge unreasonable rent rises and poor landlord behaviour.

The Government says the aim is to give renters more security and make the private rental sector fairer, though landlords warn the changes could add more risk as they have less power to deal with problem tenants and adds extra administration.

Neil said: “It’s bad enough with all the regulatory change, you’re left thinking, have I done it right? Because if you don’t, then you get a £7,000 fine. Everything is going up so you’re constantly a bit nervous”

“There is a lack of clarity on how an ombudsman will work in terms of evicting problem tenants.

“That makes me extremely, extremely nervous because if I do get a bad tenant, it looks like it’s going to be a nightmare. I totally understand why people are just saying, forget it.”

He was also concerned over the rumours that Rachel Reeves was considering a year-long rent freeze to help households with the effect of the US-Israeli war with Iran.

Government ministers, including housing minister Matthew Pennycook, have denied the plans, saying, “It’s not a credible or serious policy proposition”.

However, should they come into force in the future, Neil is worried it would have a negative impact on the whole industry.

He warned that a rent freeze would mean that he would have to put up rents before rules were to come in, if they ever were to, and believes that smaller landlords would be under more pressure to sell up.

He said: “I can understand why Rachel Reeves [might do] that because it would stop a major cost of living increase.”

Scotland enforced a freeze on rents in October 2022, with a cap of a 3 per cent increase from April 2023. These rules were temporary and expired in March 2024.

“I looked at what happened in Scotland… when they stopped it after two years some people were suffering from 10 per cent increases,” Neil said.

“All that happens is that it just builds up, so when it stopped rents went through the roof again”.

He added: “I think people like me of my age group are progressively bailing out. I think there’s going to be a lot of people [who] just can’t be dealing with the hassle anymore.”

Neil has tried to shield tenants from sharp increases in rents where possible, despite rising costs from mortgage rate rises and other bills going up and says he has a “moral responsibility” to his tenants.

He said: “We’ve had a stonking great increase but I said to them I’ll absorb that for the next couple of years and pass on some of it to them – but rents will need to go up every year.

“If you don’t keep putting them up by £10 or £20 a month, then very quickly you’re going to be in a situation where you break even at best.”

Neil added that the regulations make it much tougher for private landlords to make a profit, arguing that corporate landlords are not as understanding if tenants have financial issues.

He often works with tenants who have had such issues to put payment plans in place and warns that corporate firms may not be as understanding.

Neil believes supply remains the fundamental issue in helping to ease housing costs, adding: “The real answer to all this, of course, is just to build more blooming houses.”